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When people look at me, they usually think I am five to 10 years younger than my actual age. When I was waitressing in my early twenties, an older man flirtatiously told me he’d always been a sucker for a girl with a babyface and doe-eyes. I didn’t tell him that I thought he might be a pedophile, but I sweetly smiled, handed him his check, and waited for a big tip.
Today, I suspect that people see what they believe to be an unusually young mother struggling to physically contain her two raucous children in a shopping cart while flying through the aisles of Target. If I am at work, I am frequently pegged as the intern or the student teacher.
I cannot count the number of times people told me how I will appreciate my youthful looks when I am older. Now, at 37 years young, sure, it’s nice to still get carded, and when someone asks me where I go to school, I wink, put on my best British accent, and tell them, “I am just here on holiday from uni.” The thing is, there is something of a power dynamic when it comes to age, and assuming someone is significantly younger than they actually are can inadvertently alter their self-perception, both negatively and positively, I suppose.
In addition to my babyface, I am an introvert, and as a child was repeatedly labeled “shy” by my extrovert mother. That, coupled with my intense interest in human emotions, led to my need to write everything I did, saw, and felt, down in my notebook. Think Harriet the Spy meets the Welch’s Grape Juice girl.
I can’t explain it; it just flows. You know the feeling—after a bit of warm-up, you start to notice yourself sinking into that sweet spot, almost like, Okay, yep, the drugs have officially kicked in. You get that juicy, tingly, blood-pumping through your limbs sensation, and you know can’t stop until you expel whatever the hell this beast is coming out of you. Maybe it’s a little like a truth serum, a magic elixir to tap into your memories, your desires, and expand your wisdom.
I write to expose my true self, to peel off the mask of everyday life, and to ferociously dig out the raw muddy truth at my core. I write to hold on, I write to let go, I write to remember who I really am and who I’ve always been. I write for courage, I write for freedom, and I write to ride into the night with a ball and chain and have my own Mel Gibson Braveheart moment, where I look that old man in the eye and say, “I’m not your fucking baby.”